Communication

Communication goes through six different layers (so the experts say)

1) What you mean to say

2) What you actually say

3) What the other person hears

4) what the other person thinks he hears

5) What the other person says about what you said

6) What you think the other person said about what you said

Build TRUST

T- Truthfulness - Leviticus 19:11 "Do not lie"

R- Respect - 1 Peter 2:17  "Show proper respect to everyone."

U- Understanding - Romans 12:15 "Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn."

S- Small things - Luke 16:10 "Unless you're faithful in small matters you won't be faithful in large ones. If you cheat even a little you won't be honest with greater responsibilities. Treat a trust with faithfulness.

T- Time- 1 Thessalonians 5:14 "Be patient with everyone" 1 Corinthians 13 "Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful and endures through every circumstance." Psalm 145 " The Lord is faithful to all his promises and loving toward all he has made."

Development of Trust

four stages

1) Openess and Validation - willingness to honestly self disclose

2) Respect - trust through mutual respect. Know and respect each others boundaries and limits.

3) Acceptance and Letting go of the need to control - learn reasonable expectations.

4) Consistency and Sacrafice - trust is deepened by a demonstrated commitment. Signs of commitment: a) consistency (being reliable) b) sacrafice (efforts that are made at a cost)

Learning to trust in a new relationship when you have been burned in the past requires good self- esteem, reduction of fear, commitment to relationship and reduction of doubt.

Needs of a woman:

1) affection 2) understanding 3) respect

Needs of a man:

1) appreciation 2) acceptance 3) trust

 

Continue to tell me the truth.